A new year has started and you are thinking about your life’s goals. Have you achieved this last year what you wanted to achieve twelve months ago? What do you want to achieve in the next twelve months?
Don’t skip that thinking. Take your time. It’s though and demanding, but it’s necessary.
Probably you have already been through setting up a list of goals last year. Time to pull it out again. I’m sure you still have it somewhere. (I stored mine as an entry in DayOne with a star attached to it.)
If you didn’t write a list last year, you probably still remember your thinking back then. What was it that fueled you? What was it you wanted to attain this year? Where and how did you imagine yourself today?
Going through these questions stirs a bag of mixed feelings. You have to be honest with yourself. And being honest is painful.
You may realize that you have been cheating yourself.
You surely had a lot of things to do last year and many of them were important. Obligations, projects, personal, professional and financial hurdles. Your job, your family, your relationships. You surely were a good employee, a good parent, a good friend.
Yet, if you are honest, are you now what you pictured of yourself twelve months ago? Or have you sold off many a vision along the way?
This last year, did you commit to the you?
Committing to the you is always a challenge. It may require you to do things differently. You may have to change.
Change is like a leap in cold water. There are many unknowns. It’s a risk to your safety. Change is what you fear.
Yet, safety has failed you. It has made you succumb and lead you astray. It has made you blind.
If you stay on the path of safety blindsightedly, you will end up unhappy.
You will continue to create lists with goals that show up time and time again only to never get checked off. The uneasiness and guilt you feel while looking at your unchecked goals will one day make way for surrender. Your inner struggles over who you are and who you wanted to be will vanish silently. You will accept defeat for it is easy. For it is safe. In the end, goals will no longer have a meaning to you.
Only perhaps change may not be so frightening as you think.
Haven’t you succeeded in the past when you became someone new?
Why shouldn’t you embrace change and the fear that comes with it for you know you will grow from them?
The New Year marks the time when we have to renew ourselves in change and commit to what we really feel.
I want you to rewrite your list. The one for this year. Going at it, be the dreamer and optimist you have always been. Listen to yourself. If your are ready, just follow this one condition: stay committed.